Wisdom From an Old Friend

mr rogersLet me start out by sharing a person I met as a child; Mr. Rogers, a public television figure who appeared on televisions across the US and Canada. A simplistic show that focused on the concerns of EVERY child, their core needs, a foundation for their future. At the time I never realized the impact he had on me. Coupled with his message and the unconditional love I received both my parents I was extremely fortunate. I didn’t know how much his words would resonate throughout my life.
In 1969, Mr. Rogers addressed the US Senate, pleading against a budget cut that would cease his show. His plea conveyed him as an advocate for social and emotional education that he provided through his public television show. Here I am 50 years later pleading for the same education, as a mother, as a professional, as an advocate for mental wellness, as a human.
During his 6 minutes he explained an important concept, “Neighborhood Expression of Care.” A place where every child could explore theirlovehands basic mental health components. Love, the sense of being needed, cared for, ways to learn control of their emotions, and provided a safe place in the comfort of a child’s home. Is that not the very same thing we are asking for now?
Mr. Rogers further explained that, “if we in public television can only make it clear that feelings are mentionable and manageable, we will have done a great service for mental health. I think that it is much more dramatic that two men could be working out their feelings of anger-much more dramatic than something of gunfire.”
So here we are fighting for what is right, a safe world for our children. A place where they can grow, be loved, and feel love. Doing what we feel is right, as did Mr. Rogers, for years he advocated for mental health whether he meant to or not. Mental Wellness of every person is vital, a basis for our futures, our engrained ability to manage our own person. At the core we all need to know that we can cultivate our own sense of control. Mr. Rogers explained those concepts through his show. Concepts such as controlling our anger, we have the ability to control our emotions and feelings, but we need to be taught what that control is and how to use it. Have you ever been so angry that you just felt out of control, no control over what was going on with you? Did you realize at some point that you were making a choice? That you could control, that you could scream or distract yourself with a different activity? You choose to be happy? Our feelings are ours, if you are taught and take ownership then you are in control. But if you don’t know that you can control how you feel, if you haven’t been taught this concept, then it does feel as though the world is against you, that your life is spiraling out of control. If you have truly never experienced that then consider yourself fortunate but recognize that there are people out there that do not know they are able to be in control. Empower yourself, take some initiative and talk with them, teach them, bring a sense of neighborhood to them, let them know that you care, that they matter, and that they are significant. Start building people up, say hello, take an interest, the change starts in your heart. If you’ve witnessed a small child you know that they mimic what they see, make it something noteworthy that they remember.
We have got to stop acting when it has become our person that has been affected. Waiting until it is you personally that is going to bed with a heavy weight of loss. Because as a neighborhood, community, nation we need to all realize we go to bed every night with the loss as the lives of our future as they are being lost at a staggering rate. If we could just embrace the wisdom of Mr. Rogers, show some kindness towards each other, become good role models, teach all the children about their social and emotional selves, allow them to be in control of their feelings, and positively manipulate their person, then we will be paving a road that cultivates a world where our children can be safe again.pexels-photo-209852.jpeg

Together We Can Renovate

Welcome to my blog. I plan to explore our society, with the interest of rebuilding a state of mental wellness for all. Our society is ready for a renovation, we can keep what works, and there is no need to reinvent the wheel, but most of all let’s make it better, together. So grab your tools and let’s get renovating.

In spite of warnings, change rarely occurs until the status quo becomes more painful than change. People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of their character. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hwy 90 Biloxi, MS
Once a beautiful Highway in Biloxi, MS. Destroyed by Katrina, but if you look today, she’s beautiful again. Nature’s way of bringing a renovation.